The month of May is always well celebrated. Both the secular and the sacred collide. May is the month of Mary. May is graduation season, the beginning of the end and the end of the beginning. It is therefore highly symbolic of new life and season (or full- blown springtime). This is also especially true on the Second Sunday of May, whereby we extend sincere appreciation to myriad of women who brought life to the world and this Sunday, the 6th Sunday of Easter, even if we are still reeling from the pandemic, church attendance going disappointingly low, either because people are still afraid of coming in-person or have felt comfortable with the new normal whatever that is. Easter celebrates the triumph of Christ, our Lord, the author of new life. The celebration of Mother’s Day is one of the biggest in the land where people spend millions in greeting cards, presents, meals and flowers. One possible reason for such a high regard on the occasion is that Motherhood is known to be a great example of nurture and paragon of love & care, in moments of despair, isolation, dissatisfaction and failure. Mother’s Day forms part and touches the deepest truths of our faith.
Easter is a way of giving birth from the pain of betrayal, denial and the cross to being transformed into Christ. To be a mother isn’t only about child- bearing but also learning the pain, suffering and the joys of raising a child. The love of a mother then is a classic example of God’s love. This is where I begin to see the deep connection between the sacred theme of Easter and Motherhood.
John 15: 9-17 the assigned Gospel this weekend is a continuation of Jesus’ farewell discourse, which brings to mind impending loss and separation. While we normally don’t like goodbyes, past experiences and memories of being left behind perhaps, to a childcare center, on the first day of school, leaving home for college, break up in a relationship, end of a business contract, moving out and death of a beloved, to name a few, certainly will cast a shadow. When someone who became part of your life is leaving, anxiety, fear of the unknown and troubling heart uncontrollably come into play.
This episode also presents the all-important theological theme of friendship with Jesus, “I have called you friends”. However painful departure is, friendship stays and quite often, goes to a lifetime. There is a shift from the image of a servant (doulos), disciples/followers (Metathai) to being friends with him (Philos). He says, “I no longer call you slaves, because a slave does not know what his master is doing. I have called you friends, because I have told you everything I have heard from my Father (John 15: 12-13).” A friend is different from a slave because the former has an inside access, close relationship and equal level of association with the Master.
The commandment (not a suggestion) is that the measure of love is Jesus’ love for them termed as Agape – the highest and deepest kind of love. “As the Father loves me so I love you (John 15: 9).” This thriving small community in which he addressed this will be a community of love tasked to embrace everyone, ‘ Love one another as I love you (John 15: 12)’, a foundational teaching of Jesus. It is easier said than done. This love that originated with the Father is totally unsurpassed. The greatest love is one who lays down his/her life for friends and not learning to love yourself. The quality of love must be that of Jesus. I am reminded of the expression, Love unconditionally, the rest is commentary. Love without limits, the rest is footnote. Friendship with God is paramount. The second reading from 1 John 4: 7-10 says, “let us love one another because love is of God. God is love.” While love is the most used word, it is also elusive and mysterious. Love belongs to God. Love begins with God. Love comes from God. Although it is used all the time in describing affinity for a cuisine, love it with an emoji! deep friendship – intimate, passionate and romantic relationships, our love however human, has its origins with God. A loving person lives the inner life of God whether you are aware or not. A loving person is the most amazing person in the world and has a very attractive character. It’s this person’s way of life. This person is mostly interested/concerned in the good of the other rather than one’s own. A loving person in not possessive or dominant.
It is said that in life, you should have two kinds of friends. One who will give you listening ear and embrace you with deep affection, sentimental and emotional and will not judge and say anything bad about you no matter what you tell him/her. The other friend is someone not afraid to tell you the truth: the hard, painful and harsh reality of life which we normally claim as tough love. Regardless, true friends bear our burdens and help us carry our crosses. Friendship with Jesus requires both. It means offering and submitting our cares and worries to him in prayer but in the same fashion, faithful to his commandment of love. Genuine friends make you feel the magnitude of love. A story is told about St. Teresa of Avila pouring out to God in prayer her disappointments regarding her struggles with fund- raising projects. You know everything I am doing is for you but how come you’re giving us all these obstacles. So, this is how you treat your friends, no wonder you have so few of them. No one has greater love than this than to lay down his/her life for friends. So that my joy may be in you...
A week before the Ascension of the Lord, Jesus guaranteed his disciples with over a lifetime warranty, that the Holy Spirit will be with them as the continuing sign of the presence of God. Many people thought that the eventual cessation of conflict and the avoidance of argument meant peace but it’s more than that in actual fact. It is rather the sense of calm, serenity of heart and the tranquility of mind and soul that constitute the peace the Spirit brings.
The good Lord reminds us that regardless of our social profile, the gift of love in Motherhood, which I, as a representative of the church and a Spiritual father, share the humble privilege of providing peace to those who have desperately yearned for it. Obviously, Motherhood does not have exclusive rights and privileges nor have the sole possession of love (human and divine). May this love inspire us as we struggle to make God’s love real for ourselves, for our families, but for those who have been deprived.
Jesus described his relationship with us as friendship at a difficult time in his life, at a farewell discourse and he said, ‘ Love one another as I love you’ (John 15: 12) and the best expression of this love is when a friend lays down his/her life to the other in the case of a soldier who throws his body on a grenade, the selfless giving of one spouse to the other, the raising of children well along with the sacrifice associated with it, the care taking of an elderly parent and the act of standing with a friend when no one else does. Amen.
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Bishop Edward J. Weisenburger